Saturday, August 16, 2014

HOW MUCH IS TOO MUCH???


John Paul & Elizabeth Ann just quite can't wake up this lazy Saturday morning!

Fall can be exhausting for Moms and Dads.  There are football games and volleyball tournaments, choir practices and band rehearsals.  Add in a little homework with carpooling on the side, and it’s quite the full life.  Often before bed, Tom and I look at each other and say, “OK, what’s happening tomorrow?” as we carefully plan out who’s driving whom to what corner of Mobile.  Our family calendar on the wall is so complex that it almost requires an advanced degree in mechanical engineering to make it all work!  Truth be told, we love it all.  It is a great joy to see the kids do well in activities they love.  Someone asked me the other day at John Paul's football practice, "Tired of this yet?"  and I honestly answered to her surprise,  "No way, man!  Can't wait for the first game!" 

BUT, moderation in all things.  Our kids would love to enroll in everything, and as their mom, I'd love for them to try.  So at the start of every school year we ask ourselves, “Have we taken on too much? Are our kids involved in too many activities?  Should we cut out something?”  As we discern these questions yet once again, we’d like to share with you some of the guidelines we consider in our household…

Are the children thriving?
First we look at each child and discuss how he or she is doing.   Are they happy?  Are their attitudes positive and cheerful?   Are they juggling their activities successfully and keeping up with school work?  Do they have healthy friendships that build them up?  If the answers are yes, these are all good signs.  Can they play independently, or do they look to you for constant entertainment?  Are they exhausted?  Do they mope around the house?  Are they so busy that they can’t keep up with regular chores and homework?  These could be warning signs.

Do the kids have enough free time?
For the younger set:  when’s the last time your children came home good and dirty, covered from head to toe?  Kids need time to be kids.  They should have some unstructured time to allow their imaginations and independence to flourish.  Hyper-scheduling so they are on the go from one activity to the next turns childhood into a job and risks burning them out on the activities they once loved.  It may also pigeonhole them too early in certain skills.  Free time allows them to discover a wider array of interests and talents they may not have known they had.  Make sure their extracurriculars aren’t preventing them from running around the neighborhood with friends, digging in the dirt, reading their favorite new series, or shooting baskets in the driveway.

Are the children able to spend time with the rest of the family?
Don’t let activities be so all-consuming that you have no family togetherness at home.   Sure, sometimes we tell ourselves that time spent at Bobby’s soccer games IS family time since we are all there together, but let’s be realistic:  Bobby is playing soccer, Mom and Dad are chatting with friends on the sideline, and little Susie and Timmy have run off to the playground because the game doesn’t hold their attention.  That alone is not sufficient family time; family time means Interacting,  doing something together,  like sharing a meal and conversation or playing a game.  We all know how crucial dinnertime is – make sure the activities don’t prevent your family from ever sitting down to eat together.  Of course some days are extra crazy, and there may be special events that prevent a sedate family meal, but the norm should be dinner together, even if it means eating earlier or later to accommodate schedules.  (Dinner at 7:30 or later is pretty common in our household during football season.)

Are you and your spouse able to spend time together?
Don’t forget about your own marriage in the midst of all the madness!  There have been days where Caroline comes screeching up to a choir concert with a ballerina in tow, while Tom zooms in with the other car, loaded with a quarterback and a sleepy four-year-old … we look at each other and say, “Oh hello!  Nice to see you!”  We know too much is happening when we can never attend an event in one car!  Make a conscious effort to carve out special time with your spouse, even if it’s just snuggling on the couch with coffee and your favorite TV show.    If this is impossible, something must change in your schedules.   It is OK to say no.  Our kids do not have to play every sport, audition for every play, join every club, attend every party. 

Remember:  Just because an activity is a great opportunity for your child doesn’t mean you have to sign him or her up -- great opportunities will certainly come along again. 

Monday, July 28, 2014

SO WE'RE HEADED FOR DISNEY ... IS IT EVEN POSSIBLE TO STAY WITHIN OUR BUDGET?? (part 2)

In case you missed the last post, the answer is YES!

We just returned from a happy (though scorching & wet) trip to our favorite vacation spot, after being away for five years.   Thought I'd post some thoughts on traveling to Disney with a big family ... if nothing else, it will help me remember for next time.   Upcoming posts:  What You Absolutely, Positively Must Pack.
Keep tuning in! 
 
For all Disneyphile big families out there, here are our last three ways to enjoy the Disney magic without depleting your bank account:

#3.   Recycle your Disney gear from trip to trip.  We have a large plastic container that holds all of our Disney fun stuff.  After each trip, it all goes back in.  We're talkin' shirts, lanyards, beltbags, backpacks, hats, and especially mouse ears.  I know what you're all thinking.  In the Disney afterglow you're thinking how much fun it would be if you leave it all out to enjoy.  Don't do it.  You know what will surely happen:  mouse ears get squashed, pin backs fall out, lanyards slip behind shelves, and shirts fall into the abyss of the laundry room never to reappear.  If you pack it all up right away, you will save money in the long run.  A few weeks before our trip, we pull out the Disney box. We're all excited to see our collection, and it adds to the trip anticipation.  The Disney box is the only way we still have discontinued Jack Sparrow (that's Captain Jack Sparrow) pirate mouse ears from 2007 (left).  And of course, we hit the parks armed with great stuff to begin with, so splurging is less of a temptation.

#2.  BYOPonchos.  This is not an original idea, but it's a crucial one that I must mention, because so many families forget!  How do I know?  Check out the sea of Mickey raingear that emerged during this downpour, and then remember that Disney charges $9 a pop for 'em.


If you are headed to Orlando in the spring or summer, it WILL rain.  You must be prepared to slosh through afternoon thundershowers.  Go to the Dollar Store and load up on cheap ponchos - they'll fit easily into your backpacks and you can toss them after the trip.  Don't bother with your own raincoats or umbrellas from your closet; they're too bulky for your backpacks and you'll regret it.  If you have big boys in your family -- Dads, teenage sons, Grandpas -- buy everyone at least 2.  (After an afternoon of Florida rain and heat, let's just say ... they don't smell "magical" anymore.)  If you get desperate at the end of a long, extra-rainy trip like we just did, you can try this:  I doused all of them in soapy bathwater after EA got out of the tub, then let them drip-dry overnight in the shower.  It did the trick, and I didn't have to throw away $63 for 7 Mickey ponchos.  (We'd rather use that $$ on Dole pineapple floats!!)

‘Glow With the Show’ Ears Coming to Walt Disney World Resort This Fall
#1.  Before buying anything, ask yourself, "Will I actually use this/wear this when I return home to the real world?"  Let's face it:  the same Grumpy shirt that is perfectly acceptable in the Magic Kingdom would be ridiculous at home at say, a football game in the stands.  Will you walk around town with that bright pink Minnie backpack??  Just say no. (The traditional monogrammed mouse ears are the exception of course.)

This time around, we all thought the new illuminated Mickey ears were amazingly cool.  "Glow with the Show" ears change color in sync with the nighttime Disney shows and fireworks, and we McDonalds do LOVE the shows!  But $25 each?  For ears to wear only at night?  When we already had ears for all the kids?  We said no, don't regret it, and saved nearly $200.   
 



 Want more "So You're Headed for Disney ..." posts?  See Why Bother with Matching Shirts? and Is It Even Possible to Stay within our Budget, part 1.

Saturday, July 26, 2014

SO WE'RE HEADED FOR DISNEY ... IS IT EVEN POSSIBLE TO STAY WITHIN OUR BUDGET?? (part 1)

Yes!
We just returned from a happy (though scorching & wet) trip to our favorite vacation spot, after being away for five years.   Thought I'd post some thoughts on traveling to Disney with a big family ... if nothing else, it will help me remember for next time.   Upcoming:  What You Absolutely, Positively Must Pack.
Keep tuning in!

http://i1.ytimg.com/vi/nL-dTzBvaaM/maxresdefault.jpgLet's face it:  going to Disney is really, really, expensive.  Some folks say it's as pricey as flying your family to Europe.  (I suppose if you're staying in a deluxe Disney resort, it certainly could be.  But we are All-Star resort folks, sooo ... not exactly European pricing.)  Once you save up for your Disney package and click Purchase, how can you remain calm, resist the Disney magic urge to spend, spend, spend, and not leave Orlando bankrupt?  If you've ever entered the World, you'll know what I mean.  Something mysterious happens, and you develop overwhelmingly intense desires to buy Mickey Mouse flip-flops, pajamas, and underwear. Cool dudes with tattoos walk around with light-up mouse ears.  Grandpa wears a Grumpy T-shirt.  Grandma dons a hot pink princess hat.  The $40 Frozen dolls that your 4-year-old falls in love with suddenly seem perfectly reasonable.  And shouldn't every family have a 5 foot tall stuffed Mickey Mouse?
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And now spending money is even easier with the introduction of Magic Bands, which serve as your room key, park ticket, fast pass, and yes, even your credit card.  Just wave your arm in any store and whatever you want is yours.  (I actually love the ease of the Magic Bands, but with no actual money ever switching hands, it could be very dangerous.  Just sayin.')  So for any Disneyphile families out there, here are our top 5 ways to enjoy the Disney magic without depleting your bank account:

http://didmigrate.files.wordpress.com/2011/02/6a00d83451db4269e2014e8640d5a3970d-400wi.jpg#5.  BYOH2O.  Before your trip, throw a case of water bottles in your trunk or have some delivered to your room  (see Garden Grocer).  I promise that after one hour in the Florida sun you will tempted to pay any amount for something icy to drink.  Ten bucks for a souvenir cup of LeFou's Brew?  Give me 5!  I guarantee you'll be that desperate.  So if you have cold water in your back pack all ready to go, you will save buckets of money.  For those on the dining plan (we always are), don't waste your snack credits on drinks;  get your coke fix with your meals instead since they're included.  Most Disney rooms have small fridges now; as soon as you arrive turn your fridge down to its coldest setting, and throw in your water.  If driving, better yet, you can freeze them ahead of time for a head start.  The other thing you must bring is a bottle or two of Mio drops.  (Walmart has an off-brand that's cheaper.) By hour two your water bottles will be empty .  I can't explain why, but most water fountains in the park aren't very cold, and the Florida water has a weird taste.  Surely Disney would not allow that intentionally to make us want to buy more drinks, right???  The Mio helps - a little.  (Christopher reports that the water fountains near Space Mountain are cooler and Olaf Cupcake at Hollywood Studiostastier than most.)  And, while you're waiting for your table service reservation outside, many restaurants have cold water dispensers sitting out, and that's a great time and place to refill your family's bottles with decent water.  We saw this at Crystal Palace in the Magic Kingdom, and at Hollywood & Vine at Disney Studios.  OK - for thirsty folks, here's my best secret - it only took us five trips to discover this... at the Backlot Express in Disney Studios, they have a fill-your-own-drink station!!!!! That means free refills at a Disney Park!!!!  The food there was just OK, but they did have adorable Frozen cupcakes (see left). So buy your drinks and maybe a few cupcakes to share, and bask in air-conditioned, Diet Coke Heaven.

P.S.  We actually loved LeFou's Brew (see below).  Think Apple Icee topped with mango foam!  Buy 1 or 2 in the NON-souvenir cups for half the price, and let everyone take a swig just for fun.  Keep a lookout for Gaston while you swig; he often appears near Gaston's Tavern, and he is quite hilarious.
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#4.  Buy your souvenirs before your trip.  And then hide them.  Every ride exits into a super-fun store, where there is wall-to-wall temptation to wave that Magic Band and blow your budget.  And it IS fun to bring home new souvenirs and toys from your vacation.  So if you buy a few things ahead of time, you can resist!  A few months before your trip, pay attention to your little one's favorite characters (Elizabeth Ann is nuts for Sophia the First) and start perusing the sales.  Walmart has toy clearance aisle that routinely has Disney stuff.  Much cheaper to buy a Princess Barbie at Target than in the Parks. The Dollar Store also has plenty of Disney crayons and coloring books.  Before you leave your hotel room each morning, you can pull out something fun while little ones aren't looking, and then when you return, it's as if Mickey delivered them!  More Disney Magic.

What's the ONE souvenir to splurge on in the Parks?  Mouse ears, of course!

On the Disney bus, sporting her new mouse ears.  Princess ones, of course!
You can get a monogrammed set of ears for $20 or less, which is bearable.  Since these are items that are only available in the Disney Parks, we think it's worth it.  The kids save theirs and re-wear them in years to come.  Peter and Christopher have Jack Sparrow pirate mouse ears from when they were younger that are no longer made.  The folks in Disneyland Paris went nuts over them.

Kids goofing around in 2009 with the now-coveted pirate ears.
That's enough for now.  Tune in next time to discover our final three ways to ward off budget-busting.




Want more "So You're Headed for Disney ..." posts?  See "Why Bother with Matching Shirts?"

Wednesday, July 23, 2014

SO WE'RE HEADED FOR DISNEY ... DO I REALLY NEED TO BOTHER WITH MATCHING SHIRTS? (part 2)

In case you missed the last post, the answer is YES!
We just returned from a happy (though scorching & wet) trip to our favorite vacation spot, after being away for five years.   Thought I'd post some thoughts on traveling to Disney with a big family ... if nothing else, it will help me remember for next time.   Upcoming posts:  How to Stay on Budget when you visit the World & What You Absolutely, Positively Must Pack.
Keep tuning in!

There is only one place where my husband will willingly run or wear matching clothes, and that is Disney World.  We've traveled with and without coordinating shirts, and even he agrees that they're extremely helpful (but I say it's just fun and they're so dang cute!)

In our last post you can read about Mickey and Minnie tie dye shirts that you see above ... this time I want to show you my new favorite thing:  Heat-n-Bond Ultra Hold.

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I don't really sew and I don't own a sewing machine, but I aspire to be one of those crafty moms who can make adorable things.  So if I'm speaking your language, you've got to run out and buy some sheets of Heat Bond.  If you can iron, you can make an amazingly cute shirt, backpack, whatever.

Here was my first attempt.  I was just experimenting ... and after a day in Epcot and 3 washings, it has held up! Some DIY websites recommend stitching around the edges after ironing on the material, but since I don't sew, I didn't.  (The directions on the Ultra Hold package say don't sew, so I obeyed!)  This took me all of 5 minutes, from start to finish.  My kind of craft project.
This worked so well that it inspired me to keep going.  I had a plain white dress for Elizabeth Ann that I had been saving to monogram, but never did.  So I added yellow pom pom balls on the bottom, and another Mickey with her initial:

 I made coordinating shirts for Emma and me, and of course stitched on a little bow to make it more Minnie.  (I CAN at least use a needle and thread.)  Here is the design up close.  We were stopped by so many people asking about them:


And here is one last view of the dress:

OK, so how can you get started?  After you've got your Heat Bond (found it super cheap at Walmart), find some fabric you can get excited about.  I didn't like Walmart's selections, so I went to Joanne's and found a cute set of coordinating fabrics. I love, love, love these patterns.  It was only $10 for the whole set, and it was way more than enough for all our projects.  I still have a ton left:
Find some Mickey templates and cut them out.  There are a million out there on line.  I printed out several sizes because I have kids of all ages and sizes.  I just held them up to the shirts to see which one fit the best.

If you also want to add an initial, just print out a letter in your favorite font in your word processing program.  Again, experiment with a few different fonts and sizes.  I finally settled on "Curlz," the one on the right.  Cut out the letter to make a template, just like you did for the Mickey head.
And now you're ready to iron.  Read the directions carefully on the Heat Bond package; I did, and it was very clear what to do.  I'll just add a few reminders.  First, turn on your iron to get nice and hot, but turn off the steam.  Remember that each shape you add takes two steps.  First you iron on the backing, that turns your shape into a kind of iron-on patch, then you iron your "patch" on to the shirt.

So get the material ready.  If it's wrinkled, iron it a little.  Then flip the material over to the wrong side.  Iron on the Heat Bond.  Just takes about 8 seconds.  Let it sit for a few minutes to cool off.
Now you're ready to use your templates to make your Mickey head and letters.  Trace them on the Heat Bond.  If you're using a letter, be sure to turn it around backwards.  As you can tell, I'm a very messy tracer.  But that's OK; it's the cutting that's important.

Use your sharpest scissors to cut them out.  You want nice smooth edges.  Here are my 2 finished patches, ready to be ironed on.  (The tiny Mickey head is for Elizabeth Ann's Bitty Baby. I know, I know.  The kids say I'm this close to being one of those crazy Disney moms!)
You're almost done!  Peel off the backing (the white Heat Bond paper), carefully position on your shirt, and iron one last time.  So simple!

So I had so much fun with the shirts, I had to keep going.  Here is a backpack we made for Emma.  Came from the Dollar Store.  (Be careful when ironing, bc the backpack material tends to melt if too hot.)
With Dug and Russell from Up in the Animal Kingdom.  These guys were awesome (and the movie is awesome too.)

Here's the backpack close up:
One last picture.  Here is Elizabeth Ann's outfit for the Animal Kingdom.  Skort came from Walmart (again!) for only $5.  (Worked great for Chick Fil A's Cow Day, too.)  I can't take credit for the design of the shirt - saw it somewhere on line and I can't find it again - but whoever's idea it was, thank you!  So cute!
Now these are admittedly girly heat bond designs; if I were doing this for my boys I would do plain Mickey heads ... something like this:
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This Mom used felt and spray adhesive.  Don't know how it holds up after a rainy, sweaty day in the parks, but it's sure cute.

Happy Ironing!

Monday, July 21, 2014

SO WE'RE HEADED FOR DISNEY ... DO I REALLY NEED TO BOTHER WITH MATCHING SHIRTS? (part 1)

YES!
With a hilarious Gaston from Beauty and the Beast in the gorgeous new Fantasyland area.  He told the kids, "OK everybody, think handsome thoughts and say 'Popularity.'"

We just returned from a happy (though scorching & wet) trip to our favorite vacation spot, after being away for five years.  Last time we went I was pregnant with Elizabeth Ann and John Paul was only 3, so you can bet he and I hopped on every wild ride we could.  (The new Seven Dwarves Mine Train was super-adorable with just the right thrill factor.)  Thought I'd post some thoughts on traveling to Disney with a big family ... if nothing else, it will help me remember for next time.

So YES, all those Disney bloggers & Etsy moms are on to something with the whole matching shirt thing.  At first google they may seem fanatical ... a different themed shirt for each of the four parks?  Matching clothes for Grandma and Grandpa even?  Coordinating bows and backpacks?  And come on, Mickey manicures???  But I'm a believer.  At least about the shirts.

For one thing, it helps your group stay together.  As you navigate the parks, crowds split to let you through.  As you enter rides and queuing areas where they admit a limited number at a time (Lion King, Enchanted Tales with Belle, Turtle Talk with Crush) your whole family easily gets let in at once.

Your family pictures also turn out great; my favorite pics are always the ones in matching shirts.
But the best reason of all?  Little ones are less likely to get lost.  If you've never been to Disney in the summertime, it is hard to fathom the number of people.  Think wall-to-wall bodies.  Then add half the teen population from Brazil and Argentina, who roam around in huge tour groups during the summer. The day we DIDN'T wear matching shirts, nine-year-old John Paul started following another teenage boy with a red shirt who looked exactly like his big brother.  Thankfully, I had stopped behind our group to adjust the stroller, so I saw him veer off and was able to nab him.  Honestly, my one regret about the shirts is that we only had enough for 2 days. It was so much harder to keep everyone together.  Next time I'll have enough for every day in the parks.

You don't have to break the bank to pull this off.  Just spend a little time cruising all the "crazy Disney mom sites," as my kids have labeled them, and you'll be overwhelmed with do-able, fun ideas.  I stumbled upon the tie dye Mickey shirts, and Emma and I knew we had to try them.  Turned into a great mom & daughter project.  There are a kajillion DIY sites, but we found this one to be the most helpful.  We added the bow on the three girls' shirts for more of a Minnie look.  Below are two of ours ... after 3 washings, they still look pretty good.
We bought our tie dye colors in individual bottles from good ol' Walmart.  (We used blue, green, and turquoise.)  Don't forget the soda ash soak - you can buy soda ash in the same section in Walmart.  You can use old T shirts that you already own - the dye will cover imperfections - or you can buy a few inexpensive ones.  We had good luck at Joanne's finding some for the girls for only $3.99; the boys used ones from their drawers.  100% cotton works best for the dye and for the heat in the park! We were stopped at least 5 times by folks admiring our shirts, asking where we bought them.

Now if your hubby is not thrilled about matching shirts, and your fervent pleas for the safety of your children don't move him, you could always try something like this:

http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=2319472 
We actually saw a guy in the Magic Kingdom with a version of this shirt, which coordinated with his family's shirts, and he looked great. (Whether he liked to admit it or not!)  

Tune in next time to see my all-time favorite DIY shirts and to meet my new best friend, Ultra Heat Bond.






Friday, May 31, 2013

Saxon??  Teaching Textbooks??  And what the heck is Singapore Math?


Note:  I first wrote this in August 2012 but got overwhelmed with new school year stuff and never posted it.  I'll add an update at the end.  It will be long and boring to my non-homeschooling friends - sorry - but we homeschoolers always agonize over which curriculum to use, so this is my take on the math debate ...

We are about to start our tenth year of homeschooling.  Gulp.  Our oldest is about to leave us for a traditional Catholic high school.  Double gulp.  On his first day I'll be bawling like a kindergarten parent, but that's a post for later.  Let's talk MATH.
8-16-12:  First Day of School - ever
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I am no math genius.  (To my kids,  if you're reading this, cover your eyes.)  I don't particularly enjoy math.  (OK, now uncover them.)  I am the daughter of a physicist and chemist, yet all the math/science genes bypassed me and congregated in my baby brother, who is now a successful computer engineer and who continually gets so many amazing job offers that we can't keep straight for whom he's working.  Probably designing advanced missile systems or something. (Kids, if you're still reading, think ENGINEERING - not literature or philosophy.  Like Shakespeare?  Go see a play.)  All that to say that you can take or leave my math recommendations and I won't be offended.

But here's the thing:  my kids rock at math.  It is always the highest score on their standardized tests; Christopher and Peter routinely earn perfect scores in math.  Not saying they love it, but they can DO it, which is good enough in my book.  Please understand that I'm not bragging and take no credit for this whatsoever.  I give all the credit to the good Lord for their brains and to Saxon, yes, Saxon Math, the much loved/much maligned series, depending on whom you ask.  (Ok, perhaps I'll take a teensy bit of the credit since I did spend hours and hours nursing them in the Lazyboy, and I just ran across another great article about breastfeeding and IQ, but once again, that's a post for later.)

I am completely convinced that the constant review required in "Mixed Practice", the daily facts practice, and the mental discipline it takes to get through a Saxon lesson is what has enabled those high scores.

It's not flashy; there are no color pictures or cute cartoon characters.  But it is systematic, thorough, and logically presented.  There is plenty, PLENTY of drill.  Christopher did Algebra I in 7th and 8th grade, and in the midst of this I ran across the Algebra book they once used in our Catholic grade schools here.  (They've since switched.)  It was gorgeous - full color pictures and lots of practical applications.  Lots.  In fact, I kept flipping page after page and it seemed to be nothing BUT practical applications. I could only think, "Where's the real math?  Where's the factoring?  Where are the equations?"  I'm all for practical applications, but surely you should be able to DO some math before applying it!

Back to the kids:  Christopher finished Saxon Algebra I in October of his 8th grade year, and since we knew he was headed to McGill (our local Catholic high school and my alma mater - Go Jackets!) we weren't ready for him to move on to geometry quite yet.  We had 2 tests looming over us:  he had to take the ACT Explore test as a placement exam for McGill in November, and then in May he had to take the Algebra I exam to see if he could get hs credit and go right in to geometry as a freshman.  I knew he needed to keep up his Algebra skills, so I bought Teaching Textbooks Algebra I, a program done entirely on the computer - lessons, quizzes,  tests, the whole shebang.  My idea was that he could do a lesson or two a day to stay primed and ready for the 2 upcoming "moments of truth."

I really wanted to love it.  Truly.  My kids get tired of all the Saxon work, and I thought this might be the answer.  On the one hand, TT did all the grading for me.  I  loved the look of it, too - fun graphics, animated word problems ... it's just cute!  But I'll be honest:  Christopher hated it.  Part of it is that's just him.  He's Carl Frederickson from Pixar's Up, so he found the cute animation distracting and annoying after the first few lessons.  But I'll also tell you that neither he nor I found it nearly challenging enough.  In their attempts to make the program fun and user-friendly, they sacrificed some of the "oomph" of content.

Christopher will tell you that if he had only done TT, he never would have passed the Algebra I test, and he would have stunk up the math section of the Explore (on which he made a perfect score).  On his own, he dropped TT after a few weeks and resorted to retaking the Saxon Alg I tests to prepare.  Can't argue with that approach now, since it worked.  You can read more reviews here and here.  Some folks love TT.

At the same time, I bought TT Math 3 for my third grader, Emma.  Until they can do the Saxon DIVE CD on their own, Saxon is very mommy-intensive, and at that point, Emma just wasn't getting enough face time with me.  (I was homeschooling 4, plus we had a demanding toddler, plus I was trying hard to get Christopher ready for high school.)  On the one hand, she was getting math lessons done every day - which just wouldn't have happened in our house with Saxon that year, if I'm being realistic and honest - and she thought all the Study Buddies and graphics were fun.  BUT, I realized too late that it wasn't challenging and rigorous enough.  She made no grade  lower than an 85% all year - and the vast majority of her homework and test grades were 100%.  So imagine my disappointment when her standardized test scores in math were completely lackluster that year.  We immediately jumped back to Saxon for 4th grade, and tried hard to catch up to where we should be.

So here's my bottom line and recommendations for both ...
    • Teaching Textbooks can be helpful if Mom simply cannot get Saxon done at all, and the child is not old enough for the DIVE CD.  I'd be wary of it for college bound kids in high school level math, however.  Don't like how it strips away mathematical language.
    • If you do use TT, I would use the grade level AHEAD of your child's current grade, and I would make the student do 2 lessons/day.  (Did that with Emma - doesn't take too long.)  I would also print out the tests and require the student to take all tests with paper and pencil the old fashioned way.  I did let Emma do quizzes on the computer, but for tests, she needed to show the work and not just guess at an answer on the computer. 
    • TT might be helpful for summer enrichment, just to keep up math skills, but I will not use it as a replacement for a real math course again. 
    • Don't skimp on the Saxon materials!  Buy the workbooks - they should do Facts Practice everyday.  For the little kids, they should do the Math Meeting everyday.  If you have several young children, buy the Saxon Manipulative Kit.  It is used for K-3 and has everything you'll ever need and you won't be tempted to skip a lesson on tangrams because you don't want to dig them out from the closet.
    • Saxon can get pricey, esp when you throw in the DIVE CD.  We've had good luck at Rainbow Resources buying the whole homeschool kit.
    • Saxon now makes its own version of the DIVE CD.  We prefer good ol' Dr. Shormann on the DIVE, but here's a comparison of the two.
    • For Algebra I, just for something different, we use Mr. Reed's "Mastering Algebra John Saxon's Way."  It's a live action version instead of a white board.  Here's a sample.
    • Facts Practice, Mental Math, Lesson Practice, and Mixed Practice makes for a long Saxon lesson.  First, I remind my kids that their math time includes the homework they would have to do in the evenings if they were in "regular" school, and wouldn't they rather just get 'er done during the day?  Then we have a deal going.  They always have to do all of the above, but when it comes to Mixed Practice, if they get a 100% on that section, then the next day they can do even or odd only. 
    • I xerox a jillion of these answer forms at the beginning of the year.  The masters are in the back of the  workbook.
     
    Sorry - still don't know about Singapore Math.  I took one detour away from Saxon, and I' m NOT going to experiment again.

    Update:  Summer 2013
    Made it to the END of our tenth year of homeschooling, thanks be to God.  Christopher survived his first year at McGill and blazed a trail through geometry and physics.  Thank you, Saxon.  And as for Emma, after a year of Saxon 5/4, her standardized scores skyrocketed, and she, like her big brothers, earned a perfect score in math procedures.  You go, girl!

    Sunday, April 28, 2013

    A CONVERSATION ABOUT THE CHURCH


    Below is a reply I have written to an old classmate of mine about the Catholic Church.  I am using this occasion as an excuse to refire-up our long dormant and short-lived blog.  Hopefully, more posts to come on topics far and wide!


    Pat, I have written something really long below. To paraphrase Mark Twain, I would have written less, but I didn’t have enough time.  You and I went to Catholic school together for a long long time.  I think one thing we can both agree on is that both of our alma maters did a lousy job of basic catechesis in the faith.  I don’t know how they are doing now, but the 70’s and 80’s were a pretty bleak time for education in the faith itself.  If they had done their jobs correctly, your questions/objections would have been answered to some extent then. 
    I am going to address your points one by one, as succinctly as I can.  I am under no illusion that I am going to change your mind. I am still wondering, frankly, how you came to this point, to be so viscerally opposed to the Catholic Church.  So, I don’t know what I hope to accomplish, other than to think that God must have a hand in it somehow, since you’ve engaged me on this on two separate occasions. Please do me the favor of reading the whole thing with an open mind, since I spent all of Sunday afternoon writing it from scratch instead of hanging out with my family.  If you wish to respond, great, but just reading it works for me too.  I won’t be offended if I bored you into disinterest in continuing the conversation.
    Your words are in bold below.
    Sometimes doesn't "religion" get in the way of relationship? Doesn't all these rules and human additions make faith more complicated?
    A lot of what you say I agree with. Rules for their own sake, or legalism, absolutely does make faith complicated.  It can suck the life out of faith, and out of relationship.  This assumes two things, though- that the rules are all the same sort (i.e. human)and not from the Lord, and that they can’t serve the relationship rather than detract from it.
    Forget Catholicism for a minute.  Let’s just take the notion of religion, or Church (as a body of believers accountable to one another) in general.  I am assuming, and correct me if I am wrong, that because you do not put stock in organized religion but in Christ alone, that you are a “sola scriptura” Christian; a person who relies on the Bible, the inspired Word of God, alone for his knowledge of Christ and his teachings.  In other words, cutting out the “middle management” of the Church and going straight to Jesus in the Word.
    So, assuming that‘s true for a moment, let’s see what the Word, and in fact Jesus himself, says about the Church:
    “And so I say to you, you are Peter, and upon this rock I will build my church, and the gates of the netherworld shall not prevail against it. I will give you the keys to the kingdom of heaven. Whatever you bind on earth shall be bound in heaven; and whatever you loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven.” Mt 16:18-20.
    After Jesus founds his church upon the rock of Peter, to whom he gives the power to forgive sin, he commissions the apostles to “go, therefore, and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them….teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you.” Mt 29:19-20. So the apostles are called to evangelize and gather believers into his church, and observe all that Christ has commanded.
    So Christ himself calls us into his church, which he founded upon Peter. Later, in 1Timothy3:15, we are told the role of the church: “But if I should be delayed, you should know how to behave in the household of God, which is the church of the living God, the pillar and foundation of truth.”
    Note that scripture is not called the pillar and foundation of truth, but the Church is.  This makes perfect sense upon reflection, and in fact is the only logical progression.
    It is very easy for Christians today to say that the Bible is all we need to know the teachings of Christ. However, consider these questions:
    How long was Christianity believed and practiced before the books of the Bible were even written?
    Where did the Bible come from?
    Who decided which books were inspired and which weren’t?
    What were their criteria? In other words, against what standards did they judge the words of the books to be authentic teachings of Christ or not?
    How did the common Christian know the stories of the Bible in the 14 centuries of Christianity before the invention of the printing press?
    There are countless English translations of the Bible. How do we trust one over another, in terms of accuracy?
    If we do not believe that Christ founded a Church to which he gave his divine authority, on what basis do we trust the decisions of those who put the Bible together?
    Now, to actually address the question you asked (sorry I got sidetracked!), With just the Bible to follow and no authoritative church to listen to, we have 30,000 Christian denominations (literally), all separated due to their disagreement over  how to interpret what the Bible says and put it into practice.  THAT’S what seems complicated to me.  One church, founded by Christ, guided by the Holy Spirit to infallibly teach its members in matter of faith and morals?  A lot less complicated.  Challenging, yes.  Complicated? No.
    Why can't people look to Christ and Christ alone for a role model because we all fall drastically short of his example?
    Again, I am in total agreement on looking to Christ as our perfect model. But this need not be an either/or choice.  Why not both/and? Now, if looking to the saints or other holy men and women distracted us from Christ, I would be against it too.  But, the church holds up this people as big flashing arrows of holiness pointing toward Christ.  If you read accounts of their lives, if you read their writings, the resounding theme is of a life, mind, and heart dedicated to the Lord.
    It is human nature to seek out role models in all the things we wish to do well, and to follow those examples.  My 13 year-old son is a pretty decent basketball player.  He works hard, practices a lot, and watches a whole lot of classic games on TV.  Why? To see basketball played at its best in a variety of game situations.
    That’s how it is with the saints (who are, of course, sinners and human beings just like us). A couple of examples: St. Gianna Beretta Molla, whose feast day it is today, was canonized a saint relatively recently by the late Pope John Paul II.  She would be pushing 90 years-old if alive today.  She was a wife, mother, and physician in Italy.  She already had several young children when she became pregnant again.  It was discovered that she had a life-threatening medical condition that could be fixed with surgery if she would consent to an abortion.  She refused, valuing the life of her unborn child ahead of her own. She gave birth to a healthy daughter, had the surgery, then died of an infection from the surgery three weeks later.  Further investigation into her life revealed a woman of incredible sanctity.  My wife and many of her friends have taken great inspiration from her as they try to be good, selfless wives and mothers themselves.  They ask for St. Gianna’s intercession to the Father in Heaven often.
    How about St. Maximilian Kolbe, a priest in a concentration camp who freely offered his life for execution in place of a Jewish man who had a wife and children?  When I try to teach my boys about courage for the sake of Christ, I want them to know all about Maximilian Kolbe, and ask him for his intercession.
    Are the saints perfect? No- they would be the first to say they fall short. Do we worship them? No-we admire and emulate them.  Do they point to themselves? No- their lives point to Christ dwelling in them. Does God love them more? No- rather, God invites us to draw as close to him as they did, and through his grace, we all can! The saints are evidence of the love and closeness to the Lord that is available freely to all of us.
    Why does the catholic church put some individuals above others especially when the church throughout history is strife with sin?
    I think I addressed this above in part, in that while the church recognizes and holds up some individuals as models of sanctity, it in no way suggests that they are better than anyone else.  All have fallen short, all are called to holiness, all are loved by God, and Christ died once for all.
    Is the history of the Church filled with sinners?  Absolutely.  Have priests, bishops, and popes sinned, sometimes scandalously and grievously?  Yes. Will this continue to happen? No doubt. But see, this is precisely where Christ’s promise comes into focus; the promise above that he was founding a Church and the gated of hell would not prevail against it.  He also promised to leave behind “another paraclete” (the Holy Spirit). See, if he left the teaching authority solely in the hands of sinful men, it would take about five minutes for the whole thing to derail. That is why he protects and guides the teaching authority of the church (the Magisterium) with the Holy Spirit. So, no matter how flawed or sinful a particular priest or pope may be, the faith and moral teaching of the church is divinely protected.
    I don’t believe in the teaching authority of the Church in spite of man’s sinfulness. I believe in it because of man’s sinfulness; those who run the church and my own.  Just as I would not trust a purely human institution to mediate between me and Christ, so I would likewise not trust myself fully, with my own agenda and rationalizations and pride.  By submitting to the authority of the Church Christ’s founded, I can trust in its wisdom apart from my own, knowing that the Holy Spirit is work thru it.
    I am a Christian because of obedience to God...God doesn't ask me to join a specific church but instead to accept his soon a my savior...that is my relationship and I don't need a sinful man to listen to my sins and tell me I am forgiven. The blood of Jesus Christ has already cleansed me of my sins past present and future.
    Again, we agree! We are both Christians out of obedience to God. And, we agree on the importance of accepting Christ as our savior.  But, the question that remains is, does Christ call us to his church? I think scripture makes it clear that he does. So the question is which church is his church? Since his says the gates of hell would not prevail against it, it must be one that is traceable back to him. If we read Acts of the Apostles, the Church as a structured organization began basically immediately after Pentecost (the descent of the Holy Spirit upon those whom he entrusted with his power). Where is that church today? I believe the Catholic Church makes the only logical claim to be that Church; it is the Church that finalized the canon of scripture, for one.  Without the Church there would be no Bible.
    And about confessing your sins to a sinful man- that is a topic that would take another 5 pages. But just think about this one small aspect- “But when Simon Peter saw that, he fell down at Jesus' feet, saying, ‘Go away from me Lord, for I am a sinful man, O Lord!’” Luke 5:8   This is the same Peter (and the other apostles) to whom Jesus said, “Whose sins you forgive are forgiven them, and whose sins you retain are retained.” John 20:23   Now if there were no need to ask for forgiveness in a tangible, ongoing manner, why would Jesus say this?
    Of course, we are all redeemed by the blood of Christ.  There is no way to heaven except through the cross of Christ. But we must cooperate with that redemptive act all life-long.  Any time I offend my wife, I must ask her for forgiveness; I hate to think what she would say if I told her the one time I asked for forgiveness 20 years ago ought to cover me from now on!  A relationship with Christ can grow and wane, just like any other if we are not dedicated to it.  Paul tells us to “work out your salvation with fear and trembling.” Philippians 2:12.  Why would he say this is it were simply a “one and done” deal? Because it isn’t.
    Pat, iIf you have made it this far, I will challenge you with this: Read and study the writings of the early Church Fathers, the first generations of Christians who were themselves taught by the apostles. How did they understand the teachings about Christ’s commands, before folks get all caught up in the Reformation etc?  You will find it eye-opening. If you are willing, here is link: http://www.salvationhistory.com/library/category/apologetics.  If you go here, and scroll down and look at the links under Selected Topics, you will find a lot of interesting reading from the early Church on many Catholic teachings that many Christians have trouble with.
    Finally, please know that, for me, my Catholic faith is joy-filled.  It is not about rules, legalism, superiority, or any of that.  It is about experiencing the joy of Christ.  I am deeply sorry that for whatever reason, that was not your experience of the Catholic Church.  Please know that there is another experience there, of what the Church really is, and was meant to be from the beginning.
    There is book I’d like to send you (a short one!) if you are open to it.  If so, send me your address.  If not, no problem.
    Last thing: I am not interested in winning an argument, or anything like that.  If this discussion is in any way helpful to your walk with Christ, let’s keep it going, by all means.  If not, that’s fine too, and we can end it here. Your call.  I am praying for you either way.